About Counselling and Psychotherapy

 

There are many reasons why you (or someone you are concerned about) may be considering therapy. Sometimes the problem can be very clear, but other times you may be unsure about exactly what it is, you just feel things aren't 'right' in your life. Talking to a professional - someone who's unconnected to you - who is trained to listen and who is accepting and understanding, is often extremely helpful.

Counselling and psychotherapy involves a unique confidential relationship between two people who do not otherwise know each other and who meet for the purpose of one of them seeking professional help and support from the other - so it's very different from a 'heart to heart' with a friend. This relationship lasts for an agreed period of time, and is generally more helpful if the meetings are at the same time, place and location.

The aim is to explore the difficulties that have led a person to look for help, and to build a good working relationship based on trust and commitment to the process of the unfolding work.

Unhelpful and repetitive patterns of consciously or unconsciously determined ways of relating or behaviour can be identified and explored with a counsellor or psychotherapist who will have an empathic but also an objective view.

 

'Counselling', or 'Psychotherapy'?

It can be confusing when people talk about 'counselling' or 'psychotherapy'. The common perception is that psychotherapy is longer-term and looks more deeply into the complex issues which sometimes beset us, whilst counselling is short-term and focusses on one or two specific problems which you're struggling with.

 

But the reality is that there are many counsellors such as myself who see people longer-term and help them work on deeper levels with quite complex problems, often going back to childhood experiences and what they can or can't recall about them. The most important thing is whether you feel you can work with the therapist - your relationship, and your joint commitment to finding a route through the difficulties you're currently experiencing and how to improve things in your life.

 

So whether you feel your difficulty is going to be fairly straightforward to resolve, or is likely to be more more complicated, remember that it's the unique relationship between client and therapist and the qualities the therapist brings to the work which makes the difference, rather than the specific 'label' given to the therapist's training.

 

What's important is to to choose the right therapist, rather than the right therapy.  

 

 

How counselling can help.

My belief is that people do their best. But we can only work within what we know, so our level of 'best' is limited by our knowledge and understanding - most people haven't had the  opportunity to learn very much about themselves, and what  makes them 'tick', and this shows most when they come across difficulties and hard times in their lives.

 

 I believe that counselling can help you achieve a better 'best', and will give you the tools and insight to help you become the person you want to be.

 

 

 

How I Work

Therapy provides a safe and supportive environment where you can talk about whatever is troubling you, and where we can work together at a pace that suits you. 

 

We all have different preferences in how we do things - not all clients will benefit from the same approach to dealing with their issues; having had training in a range of therapeutic models, I can adapt the way I work , so that you get help in the best way for you.

 

Our sessions will give you time and space, away from your everyday life, to work through any difficult feelings and events, and explore any past or current issues which may be getting in the way of you moving on. Sometimes you may be stuck in unhelpful patterns of thinking or feeling that hold you back from getting the most out of your life and your relationships. I can help you learn how to challenge these patterns, and develop more helpful ones instead.

 

I like to assess whether the service I offer is helpful to people, so I'll ask you to fill in a self-assessment form before we start and then again at the end of therapy - this method of assessment is professionally approved. I've been using these as a way of evaluating the work that I do for many years, and they show that almost all have been helped by their sessions and their lives and relationships have been enhanced, sometimes to a large degree.

 

 Sessions last for a full hour and are generally weekly at a set time and day, as it's important for clients to have a regular, secure and 'boundaried' time and space. You may need only a few sessions to make a difference, particularly if the problem is a clearly- defined one. If the issues are more deep-seated or complex it's likely to take longer.

 

Whatever you need, short- or long-term therapy, I'll be there to guide you through and to 'walk beside you' on your journey to a more fulfilled life.

 

  

 If you'd like to discuss therapy options with me you can ring me on 0117 9711976 (Mon-Fri, 10am-7pm), email 2babscurtis@gmail.com - there's more detail on the Access, Fees & Contacting Me page. Or simply click on email address  to email me directly.